THE SCIENCE IS SETTLED: CHICKS DIG JERKS. Study Finds That Men Like Nice Women, But Not the Other Way Around. “The researchers found that men who perceived possible female partners as responsive found them to be ‘more feminine and more attractive.’ Past research suggests that physical cues of femininity stimulate sexual attraction because they suggest higher estrogen levels, better overall mate quality and solid reproductive health. On the other hand, women didn’t necessarily perceive a responsive man as less masculine, but they also did not find a responsive man more attractive. What’s more, when women perceived their male partner to be responsive, they were less attracted to the man. In other words, it appeared that in an initial encounter men liked nice ladies; women thought nice guys were kind of lame.”
I posted something flippant in response to this over at Glenn’s place, but then I got to thinking: It really is a cliche that “good girls like bad boys,” and has been as long as I’ve been alive.
I think it’s all tied up in what modern culture thinks is “good” in terms of masculinity. “Good” men are obedient, follow the rules, recognize authority, are non-violent, and, lately, acknowledge the innate superiority of women over them and their brutish, testosterone-fueled impulses.
In short, a “good” man is everything that would have gotten himself, his women, his family, and his tribe killed and eaten while the bulk of humanity’s genome was selecting for survival.
Women may tell themselves such men are “good,” but their survival instincts, genes, and emotions tell them otherwise.